I feel for people in this situation. I mean, the market is so tough right now. Even buyers who do NOT have to sell their old house before buying their next one are struggling to be competitive in multiple offers.

The odds of you finding a seller who will work with you when they have other offers without a similar contingency are equal to winning the lottery. Hoping for the best isn’t realistic. Here are some not so fun options that will ultimately end up with you getting your next home.

1. List your house. Sell it. Pack up. Move out. Rent or stay somewhere short term until the house you want hits the market. Then buy it. This gets you where you wanted to be, the only negative is that you will end up moving twice.
2. List your house. Sell it. Only take offers from buyers who will let you rent back after the closing. Then begin your search and only move once. Most buyers will give you maaaaybe 30-60 days after closing before they will want to be able to move into their new home. This allows you to buy something but you’re under pressure to find and close one within that time period. If you can’t, you’ll have to move out and stay somewhere short term.
3. Only look at houses that have been on the market for more than about a week. Often these are the less desirable homes since the rush of buyers who saw it when it was a hot new listing decided they didn’t want it. The beauty of this plan is that you only move once and likely are not competing at all with other buyers. This is a good thing. A seller who only has one offer is much more likely to accept a contingency offer than one who has better choices.

So there you go. None of these are exciting. All are a lot of work. But they are real solutions to today’s real estate issues.