Selling a house is like middle school gym class

I was that kid in middle school that was always picked last in gym class. You know the drill. Two team Captains (Buyers) pick their team (Houses) until there is only one left and that person gets picked by default. Don’t feel bad for me though…….I’m sure the past 40 years has been better for me than for most of those picked before me.

The real estate market is very similar to what we’ve all experienced in gym class. Buyers organize the houses in order of preference. Naturally, they are most interested in move-in ready houses that are priced right. Then they move down the list to those that are less desirable.  Sellers want to be picked sooner rather than later. Think “Days on Market.”

Once the Captains are chosen, that is like the beginning of the house hunting season. The Captains pick those they think will be the best. Once those kids are on a team, they are “Sold” and not available anymore. All a Captain can do is pick the most desirable kid from what is left. Once the best one has been picked, the second best one becomes the new best choice. That is until it was just me standing there and the Captain says my name with the enthusiasm as if he had just heard the cafeteria was serving goulash for lunch.

Right now, we are in the time of year where not many new listings are hitting the market. It’s kind of like when there are only about 6 kids left from the whole class. These are the ones that maybe nobody really wants, but the next kid that gets picked is going to be the best of those that are left. There are many sellers right now with average to below average houses that will get contracts simply because there are no better choices for a buyer right now. I always say that fall is the best time to get rid of  house that nobody has wanted all spring and summer, which I guess is my whole point.

 On a side note, the only time I ever got picked any higher than dead last was when it was for volleyball. See, I am left-handed. When I serve, the ball always goes on the opposite side of the court from where it lands when most people serve. Everybody on the other team was always caught off guard. Nobody ever noticed the pattern of where the ball would go when I served. Come to think of it, that is one of the first times I ever realized the benefit of zigging when most people zag and zagging when most people zig.

Virtual Staging-Good or Bad Idea?

Don’t do it. (Virtual Staging is where fake furnishings are digitally placed in a vacant house to make it look appealing in case you didn’t know!)

The purpose of the pictures in a listing are to “Sell” a showing. The goal is to get a buyer interested enough to come see the place in person. Many realtors think it is to sell the house. This isn’t eBay or Amazon. Nobody is buying a house without somebody coming to see it IRL.

Let me back up a bit. The real estate industry has always had gimmicky services provided by people who are not in the real estate industry. These businesses exist to make money off of realtors. They tell us stuff like “You will have something other realtors won’t. You will win more listing appointments. You will make more money.”

When I was a new agent, there was a company that would give a talking tour of a home by calling a phone number. It was sort of like Apple CarPlay reading your texts. It came and went. It did not directly sell any houses. Then we had QR codes. Came and went. Now we have drone photography. I think there is a place for drone photography. Like if you have a lot of land that won’t all fit in one picture. Let’s face it, showing home buyers what their potential house looks like from a landing plane is pointless, especially in a neighborhood where the picture shows every roof top of every house. Who cares?

Virtual staging is the latest gimmick. I’m ready for it to fade into history. The thought is that it makes a house look better online. Yes, it does. But remember, somebody is going to come see that vacant house. It is not going to look or feel at all like what the buyer saw online. And that is where the problem lies. The goal is not to just get showings, the ultimate goal is to sell the house. Having been in real estate for 20 years, I can 100% tell you that people do not buy a home if they are disappointed when seeing it in person. I have had so many buyers get excited about a house due to what they saw online and then be disappointed after seeing it in person. I have also had listings that photographed much better than they looked in real life. I once had a listing that looked amazing in pictures, but was sort of worn out and tired looking in reality. The stream of feedback I received from showings was that it did not look like it did in the pictures. Some realtors even accused me of using older pictures of the house when it looked better.

Virtual Staging does the same thing. It excites a buyer enough to come see a house that will not be anything like what they expected.

If you’ve got a house that is tough to sell due to a variety of reasons, go with real staging. That way the pictures look great online and the house will match the expectations when the buyer comes to see it in real life.

#1 biggest mistake a seller can make

Often, when talking about pricing a house with a seller, they say something like “Couldn’t we price it at this number and won’t people just make an offer if they like the house?” Makes a lot of sense to the seller, but doesn’t when you look at it through the buyer’s eyes.

Why? Let’s say a buyer is shopping for a $400k house. You have a house that is worth $350k, but are asking $400k because somebody will make an offer if they like it, right? The buyers are viewing every house that is priced at $400k, most of which are really worth about $400k. To buyers your house will seem like the worst house they have seen with a $400k list price. Why? They are comparing it in THEIR mind to the better houses they viewed that are worth $400k. The buyer is either going to get a better location, a bigger house, or one in better condition……They are never going to like your house enough to make an offer. On the flip side, the person who is going to spend $350k is never going to see your house because they aren’t looking out of their price range. So, you have a situation where the people looking at your house aren’t going to buy it and the person who would buy it isn’t going to see it!

Here are some tips to keep this from happening:

1) If you must price on the high side, never go more than about 5% over the recent sales of similar homes in your area. Sometimes an over-priced house will get a lot of showing, which makes the seller think they are priced right. You can still get a lot of showing on a slightly over-priced house, but no offers. When you get showings and no negative feedback, it means you have a price issue. I say if you have a $350k house, it needs to priced around that number.

2)  Avoid the temptation to have a high price and have your agent tell people you are motivated. When I see a steep asking price and the agent says the seller is motivated, what comes to my mind is that they are motivated to get their price. A truly motivated seller will price their house at or less than what it is worth. In 2025, the days of testing the market are a thing for history books.

3)  Realize how the market works. You have so many buyers and so many houses. The buyer gets to pick whichever house they want and they always pick the best one. Even in a sloooooow market, I have been in multiple offers. It is human nature to want the best. The buyer is comparing all the houses available. Make your house the best one by pricing it right.

Trust me on this…There is no magic in real estate.

NEVER sell your house “As-Is”

Why? It can keep people from wanting to see your house. Plus, nobody knows what it really means!

Let’s clear the air first about what it means. Did you know that ALL houses are sold “As-Is”? The contracts all the realtors use in my area say on line 202 that the buyer is purchasing the property “As-Is.” That means just as they see it and where they see it. The house is going to stay there and no warranties, no promises of something happening differently in the future are expressed or implied……So reason #1 to NEVER sell “As-Is” is because you already ARE selling “As-Is.”

I have had several buyers in the past tell me that they were interested in a house but saw the seller was selling “As-Is” and didn’t know why. A lot of buyers think that means there is some big issue the seller knows about and wants to pass their problem on to the buyer…..So reason #2 to NEVER sell “As-Is” is because it scares off buyers from even coming to see your house. It is hard to sell a house to somebody that won’t come see it.

Somehow, “As-Is” has come to mean that the seller prefers to not negotiate any repairs after a home inspection. Wise realtors say something like “Seller welcomes inspections but prefers to not do any repairs.” Still, I say there is no need to even do this. Just as the price is negotiable, the inspection terms are negotiable as well. The contracts in my area say that if the buyer elects to do a home inspection, they have the option to ask for repairs. It also says the seller has no obligation to do any of them…..So reason #3 to NEVER sell “As-Is” is because you as the seller do not have to do any repairs. There is no need to state this to a buyer before they even see your house and know if they want it. This is something that can come up during the contract negotiations. If you were on a dating app, would you put on your profile that you’re lactose intolerant and have bad breath? Of course not. The goal of presenting the listing is to get a buyer to schedule a showing. Nothing else.

Selling? What you like doesn’t matter

A long time ago, my wife decided she wanted a Subaru Outback. We looked at a few on used car lots. I did a lot of research to find out what trim level we had to get for her to have the sunroof and heated leather seats that she wanted. There really weren’t a lot of used Outbacks in or around Lexington at that time. This was so long ago that I found a classified ad in a newspaper that said “2008 Subaru Outback, SI Drive” with the price and the seller’s phone number. That was it. Not a lot of info to work with. Definitely nothing to make the guy’s phone start ringing. But to me, this car having SI Drive told me a whole lot more about it. Having done the research, I knew that was only offered on the top trim level. It had the giant sunroof, heated leather seats, and the bigger engine. When we went to see the car, the seller kept talking about the SI Drive. I could tell it was very important to him.

A lot of home sellers are like that too. They want to focus on what is important to them when selling their house, rather than focusing on things that are important to the buyer. I see it a lot in the marketing material of For Sale by Owner listings. I once read a flyer where the seller spent a lot of space talking about how level the sidewalks are.

About this same time, I sold a house to a family that I have since become friends with. They found the house by driving around the neighborhood. They would have never come to see it if they had only seen it online. Why? Because of the marketing remarks. Instead of mentioning the hardwood floors, instead of mentioning that one of the upstairs bedrooms was huge, or that there were bedrooms on both levels of the house, or that the backyard was an awesome park-like oasis, the realtor used that space to tell you that the exterior was maintenance free, that the curtains stayed with the house, and that there was an allowance for water-proofing the basement as well as mitigating radon. The marketing remarks could only have been better if they said  “Must see! You get to keep the seller’s curtains AND fix some major problems with this house, but at least you’ll never have to paint the outside!! NOT a drive by!”

The hardest thing about real estate is getting sellers to think like a buyer and a buyer to think like a seller. I think if that ever were to happen, I’d probably be out of a job! Being a realtor these days is as much about mediation, negotiation and understanding differing perspectives as it is about houses.

BTW, “SI Drive” is a feature that has 3 settings for throttle response and transmission shift points.